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jkmaletic.buckinghamnicks	Going On HM After A Loved One's Death...	Lead	[-]
Foolish Mortal Posts: 1 (02/20/09 05:59:17) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Tags : None Hello- This is my first time starting a topic here, and I hate it that it's such a downer, but I'd like your guys opinion. My Mom passed away rather suddenly at the age of 60 last May. I went on HM the following October and found the casket scenes rather upsetting. I DID NOT expect this at all. I have always loved the HM and it's probably my favorite ride at Disneyland if I had to pick just one. I've been to DL once since then, but skipped the HM. I plan on going again next saturday, when my family and I will view for the first time our bricks that we had put in with our names on them at the entrance of the park. We did one for my Mom too, as she loved DL. Anyway, I REALLY want to go on HM, but I am afraid of getting upset again. Maybe some of you are thinking - so just don't go on it. Well, that's always an option. But maybe I just need to go in with a diffferent mindset and that's what I'm asking you all. I'm sure some of you have been in this same predicament. Any thoughts? Thanks so much in advance. Jamie
ghost1000		#1	[-]
Posts: 8653 (02/20/09 06:46:34) Shrouded in a Daft Disguise Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Jamie, Since you know when the coffin is coming up, maybe you can just close your eyes when you pass it.
Capt Quirk		#2	[-]
Grim Grinning Ghost Posts: 946 (02/20/09 06:49:38) Hitchhiking Ghost Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	It is a tough thing losing a parent, I lost both of mine within 6 months of each other. There are some things that help to keep it in perspective though- First, it is just the natural way of things. Your Mother lived a good while, and you had a chance to know and love her... and she, you. Be thankful for that. Second, you said it was sudden, and that should be a blessing in itself, as opposed to a long, lingering affliction. My Mother suffered through 6 months of Cancer and treatments, so the end was a release from pain. Third, your Mother wouldn't want you to carry this with you, rather to embrace the good things... like enjoying the HM with you and the family. So remember that as you ride through, and let her be in the DoomBuggy with you, and leave the coffin for the skeleton guy.
Scourge 999		#3	[-]
Silly Spook Posts: 118 (02/20/09 06:51:16) Foolish Mortal Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	First off, I am sorry for your loss Jamie. I too lost my mother suddenly a few years ago. Her favorite ride was It's a small world. We would go to Disneyland once a year and it was the first ride we went on together followed by the Haunted Mansion. The first year returning after her passing I went on small world and then the mansion. I tried to imagine her by my side enjoying the rides as we both once did. It felt good. I mean if she really is looking over me then I know she is enjoying the rides as much as I am. So, my family and I keep the tradition going in her honor, always small world then the mansion. It takes time to cope with such a loss, even though going reminds me of her passing, it also helps me to remember how wonderful she was.
Haunted Hearse		#4	[-]
Dead Center Of Attention Posts: 3431 (02/20/09 07:00:57) Dead Center Of Attention Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	It must have been a challenge going on "It's a small world after suffering a loss. I find going on it's a small world a challenge even if one hasn't suffered a loss.
MasterGracey13		#5	[-]
Ghost Host Posts: 433 (02/20/09 07:21:17) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	First, I am VERY sorry about your loss, and as CQ said, be glad it was sudden and not a long painful death. When the imagineers created The Haunted Mansion I do not think they took into perspective how this ride may hurt people who had a recent loss. I defiantly do NOT think that you should skip it, the mansion is a wonderful ride, but if I remember correctly during the coffin scene at WDW, the doombuggies don't face it directly at the coffin but to the side, which would give you the chance to look the other way at the wall instead of the coffin. I would do this instead of closing your eyes entirely (just my opinion). And as everyone else said, just imagine your mother is by your side (instead of a hitchhiking ghost). She would want you to enjoy yourself.
johnnybix38		#6	[-]
Ghost Host Posts: 581 (02/20/09 09:37:21) Popup Ghost Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I am extremely sorry for your loss and I have actually thought about this very subject myself. My parents are elderly and I dread the day when I lose one or both of them, and have pondered how that would affect me going to the mansion, with all the remiders of death and funerals. Just remember that you mom is in a good place right now and always with you and she would want you to enjoy yourself. I cannot imgine how diffcult this must be for you, but I can empathize, as I will eventually have to go thru this myself and I have no idea how I will be able to cope, but I DO know that I love the HM and always will and I guess I will have to remember all the great times I had there and at WDW as a child with my parents and how much they would want me to still enjoy myself. It IS difficult, since almost all of the mansion itself is a constant reminder of death, from the hearse, to the tombstones, etc. Then again, when the time comes and I lose my parents, I think EVERY ride I go on will be a reminder, since I spent my entire childhood going every year with them. Like everyone else has said, just imagine your mom being with you, she is, and the joy she feels seeing you have a great time at the happiest place on earth.
irishartist	Going On HM	#7	[-]
Ballroom Dancer Posts: 283 (02/20/09 11:12:35) Silly Spook Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I agree with all that everyone has to say...and am very sorry for your loss. Many years ago, when I lost my father, they used to have this Little Chapel of Reflections over at Knott's Berry Farm. A few of my sisters and I went to that, not long after my father passed away...this was the chapel where you'd hear classical music and look at the figure of Jesus, and hear His description read from the Bible. Well...we were all crying when when came back outside, but it felt good to "get it all out". Spent the rest of the day walking thru the amusement park with a lighter heart. A few years ago I went back to Knott's, and noticed with sadness, that the Chapel is no longer there...but the memory of what happened that day, still remains. ~irishartist
Haunted Hearse	Chapel of Memories	#8	[-]
Dead Center Of Attention Posts: 3432 (02/20/09 11:24:48) Dead Center Of Attention Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	My wife and I got married at the Chapel of Memories. We were really saddened to see it removed from where it had. stood for years to My understanding they tore it down, and only saved the windows, and replicated the building near.where they have Independence hall. All so they could make room for another roller coaster.
jkmaletic.buckinghamnicks		#9	[-]
Foolish Mortal Posts: 2 (02/20/09 21:04:18) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Thank you, Capt, Quirk, and ALL of you for your responses. They all brought tears, but good ones. You guys are all very sweet, and your words helped a lot. I think the coffins bothered me the most because I'll never forget how I felt when I first saw my Mom's at her funeral. It was both shocking and heart-breaking, even though I had helped my family pick it out. Seeing them on the Mansion was just so unsettling and upsetting (Even though I'd seen them hundreds of times before). But I will take all of what everyone here has said into thought. Again, thanks so much to all of you. It meant a lot. ~jamie
MasterGracey13		#10	[-]
Ghost Host Posts: 454 (02/22/09 19:23:55) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Your Welcome, and good luck!
TehGhostHost		#11	[-]
Foolish Mortal Posts: 2 (02/24/09 09:48:17) Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Sorry for your loss Jamie.
GhostHostMansionGhost	As warped as thsi sounds........	#12	[-]
Popup Ghost Posts: 575 (02/24/09 14:05:09) Popup Ghost Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	After the passing of a good freind of mine and my grandmother loved ones started getting asigned places according to their personality. My father who once had a job advertizing in NYC in a suit of armor is guess where ..........Asign your mom a place that she woudl ahve liked or will bring back a fond memory
swarlock		#13	[-]
Grim Grinning Ghost Posts: 1132 (03/01/09 18:31:09) Grim Grinning Ghost Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	Sorry to hear of your loss, Jamie. I lost a sister a few years ago and decided to pay my respects at The HM in Orlando because she knew I loved it so much. Strangely enough I felt better afterwards because she was there with me in some way. We were going to do WDW together before she passed on.
doombuggy		#14	[-]
Grim Grinning Ghost Posts: 981 (03/05/09 09:41:27) Ghost Host Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I know how you feel. Last year, when I arrived at DL for the Dommbuggies.com HM event, I found out that my grama had passed away during the night. She had been very sick for the last two weeks of her life, but we were very close and I didn't take it well. It was tough being in a place that I took her on vacation (well, I took her to WDW, but we spent more time in the MK and on the HM when we went in 2003), and I was by myself. I did not have an upsetting reaction at the HM like you did however. I'm sorry that happened, and hopefully the next time you go, it will be better.
Haunted Hearse		#15	[-]
Dead Center Of Attention Posts: 3458 (03/05/09 12:09:44) Dead Center Of Attention Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	My father was born in San Salvador in 1906. Because of the way Disney reached out to Latin america during WW2, my father liked much of what disney did. The fact that you had pirates attacking a Latin Seaport in POTC, we always went there first. My father also enjoyed the Haunted Mansion, and we never missed that. When ever I go on either of those rides, how can I not remember how much joy they brought him? In a sense, the ghost ridding in the Doombuggy, is not one of the hitchhikers, but rather the spirit of my father. Last Edited By: Haunted Hearse 03/05/09 12:12:21. Edited 1 times.
CaptainJackSparrowGirl		#16	[-]
Foolish Mortal Posts: 27 (03/06/09 20:37:55) Foolish Mortal Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts Report Post	I myself didn't find anything really upsetting about the ride. I went before and after my grandmother died, but I had some time to coup with it. She died in 2005 and we went again in 2007. I did though wish she could have been there with me to enjoy the ride.

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